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This is one of my entries for Week 17 of LJ Idol: The Wheel of Chaos. This is our Portfolio week, which involves a couple original entries plus some other things. Here's the link back to My Portfolio Page. This entry tackles the prompt, "Banner Year."
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Like heavy-footed kangaroos, the members of my son's competition marching band bounce down the metal stands to the field. Usually at the end of a competition, only the drum majors and section leaders go down to represent the band for results. But today was the season-ending championship, and the announcer has invited all band members to the sidelines to support their leaders and watch results.

My husband and I remain in the stands, along with a handful of adults from the other bands. We've been the voluntary "stand parents" throughout the season: keeping the band company in the stands after their performance, just in case they needed any adult help or guidance.

This has been my son's first year in the competition marching band.* Watching him from the sidelines reminds me of my own days in high school marching band.

~~~



"I need to figure out how to make a C-3PO costume," he told me, one sweaty day after band camp. In response to my questioning look, he explained: "Each section will be dressing according to a theme on Thursday. The trumpets are dressing like Star Wars, and I'm going to be C-3PO."

We brainstormed for possible ways to pull off such a costume in the dog days of summer without sweating to the point of heat stroke. After consulting with a crafty friend, we settled on a yellow T-shirt and yellow shorts, with added-on cut felt to imitate the droid's physique.



KFP dressed as C-3PO, in yellow t-shirt and shorts, with felt affixed to resemble C-3PO's torso, and with one white and one gold sock to indicate his two-toned legs.


That Thursday, when I picked him up at the end of the day, he regaled me with stories about the different groups. The trumpet section's "Star War" costumes were a hit: complete with Princess Leia, Yoda, Darth Vader, and even BB-8.

In addition, he related, the practice field was full of color and whimsy, with characters from "Family Guy," "Peter Pan," "Scooby Doo," and "Clue," along with cowboys and a whole flute section of Tinkerbells.

Despite the exhausting heat, he related, that day transformed into one of playful camaraderie. They were no longer trudging through to their marks but gliding in character.

~~~



While it would have been far easier to dress as Alice in Wonderland, that connection was a little too much on-the-nose for me. Our director had encouraged us to wear costumes for our participation in the annual Halloween parade in a nearby town. I was going as the Mad Hatter.

For my costume, I'd studied the original illustrations by Sir John Tenniel. I got myself an oversized top hat, affixing the label reading "In this style 10/6." In addition, I wore an oversized shirt to resemble his ill-fitting suit jacket, and tied a polka-dot tie around my neck. As I remember, my mom helped me make one out of painted cardboard and elastic.

Because I lived in a time before Instagram, I'm not entirely certain there were ever any photos of my fabulous costume. But I know that, of all the costumes I wore in high school, that one was my favorite.

I didn't care that people had no idea who I was, as I ran around insisting that 'We're all mad here" and asking people why a raven was like a writing desk.

My best friend, who was in the color guard and dressed as a black cat, followed me around, purring and mewing until even those who had no idea what was happening joined in on the fun, acting in character as Frankenstein's monster, or a witch, or a heavy metal star. We rocked that parade!

~~~



The announcer makes her way through the results for each division, and we shuffle our feet in the cold and clap for everyone. As the bands, in turn, receive their results, their contingents of band leaders salute and step forward, to cheers from their band mates.

Gradually, the announcer works through the smallest divisions to reach our school's division, Liberty A, for bands with 51 to 70 students. As far as I can remember, that's roughly the size that my marching band was, as well, although it felt larger at the time.

The announcer reads out the rankings, starting with 15th place. For each, she reads the scores, along with any special awards that group won. We know the competition is tight, as this comprises not only the bands my son's band has already competed against this season, but also some they've never met. While his band has always done well, today, they were competing in a much larger pool.

As the announcer makes it to 10th place, and creeping higher, the scores climb, as well. We know that the previous week, we'd been in the high 80s, and the scores soon overcome that mark. No matter where we land now, we've improved.

My husband and I cross our fingers and wait while the band, barely visible across the field, stomp their feet in anticipation.

~~~



Competition marching band today has changed in key ways since I was a high school student 40 years ago. Our shows resembled the kind of half-time shows that college bands still perform, with precision marching between set forms, playing traditional marching band instruments.

Even then, the practices and expectations were changing. One year, for example, we used an amplifier in order to allow a piccolo player (also our drum major) to play a solo during a John Philip Sousa piece. (Our band director was a huge Sousa fan). Other bands sometimes threw in fun moments, like a dancing drum line. But those were the exceptions, not the rule.

Now, all these years later, inspired by innovative techniques and driven by a new generation of directors, the field performances most closely resemble a theatrical performance. Nearly every band wheeled out set pieces that sometimes acted as mere backdrops and sometimes became a part of the action, such as a pirate ship that could be stood on by members of the color guard. Often, band members would dance while playing or move between their marks either at double-time or with dramatic movements, such as lunging like zombies for a show set in a world overcome with those monsters.

The use of traditional marching band instruments has also been augmented. Some bands used amplifiers to play sound effects, or recorded narration, or to allow them to field an electric guitarist and bassist, for example.

My son's band performed a show called "Desperado," with a cowboy theme that included wooden fences that could be wheeled around. They wore black cowboy hats and western-style shirts with their black uniform pants. The color guard wore pink hats and a fabulous pink and purple jumpsuit with dramatic white blousey sleeves.

At the beginning of the show, many of the band members danced without their instruments, modern style, with graceful reaching arms, telling a story with their entire bodies. My son was one of this group and was proud to have been picked. He and his partner in the color guard appear in a photograph that was published by the Cavalcade of Bands, who run the competitions.

As my son explained, the story was a day in the life of a Western town, with a welcoming open number, active midday -- including a trombone solo with color guard framing the soloist with pink fans -- and finally, an end to the day, where everyone falls down again, asleep.



My son leans on one of the wooden fences, while his dance partner stands on it from behind with one foot on the bottom rung, one knee resting on the middle rung, and her large pink fan poised in her right hand.

~~~



My son relates another fun memory from the year, where they were practicing their field show. One of the trumpets made her way towards a chair that marked where one of the fences would be and, in a moment of whimsy, tried to vault the chair but collapsed on the ground instead.

Hearing about this later, one of the freshman trumpet players scoffed that vaulting a chair was easy. He tried to do so and also failed spectacularly. Seeing this, one of the tallest trumpet players announced he would jump up onto the chair in a squat. He, too, failed.

My son, not to be deterred by the previous failures, took his own shot at jumping onto the chair in a squat. "It was easy," he told me. That, however, was when the drum major took notice of what the trumpet line had been doing and shouted at them to "Stop jumping on chairs."

Sheepishly, they returned to their line, finding it very hard to play with smiles stretching across their faces.

~~~



I know we worked very hard on our routines and took competition seriously, but I'll be honest that I have no clear memory of any scores or standings. Instead, I remember moments like the one my son shared with me: silly jokes, shared between band mates.

Buying "Happy Meals" at a McDonald's on the way to a competition and playing with the toys in the bus aisles.

My friend and I making our fingers dance like can-can dancers on the back of the bus seat.

Crushing on one of my fellow clarinet players, and then finding out a different clarinet player was crushing on me. (He was a nice guy, but was relegated to friend material by my adolescent brain.)

Some of the more entertaining moments on the field, such as the show where we got to pull little flags out of sleeves and wave them in a pattern. Or "Fanfare of the Common Man," where our trumpet soloist always blew the judges away.

Or stories people would relate of judges being so close to them on the field that they nearly had to run over them to make their marks. (These days, I've been told, judges stay more to the sidelines to avoid collisions, which happened more often than you'd think.)

Along with the camaraderie, marching band heralded my growing awareness that I could be myself, as silly or as different as I wanted to be, and be accepted. Along the way, I developed newfound independence and confidence. I think for many of us, band was our safe space.

~~~



The announcer gets closer to the top. Whatever they get now, they've well-surpassed their original scores this season. I think of that first show, when they all seemed green and uncertain, compared with tonight's performance, where they hit their marks with precision. Their dance routines seemed more heartfelt than ever before, and the music both powerful and sweet.

So as the numbers climbed higher, and as they surpassed some bands they'd lost to in earlier competitions, our excitement grew. Then, the announcer said, "Placing 4th in the Liberty A division, scoring a 93.563," and read the name of our son's high school. Even from the stands, we could see the explosion of cheers and bouncing brown-pink-and-black figures.

The band director and assistant band director, who'd joined us in the stands, told us it was the best the school had done in nearly 10 years!

After all the competition results were delivered, the announcer invited all the bands to run onto the field and celebrate with their band leaders. Which, of course, they did. And since we were no longer needed that evening, the band director dismissed my husband and me. We walked through the cold November air on our creaky middle-aged legs, full of joy for the young people running like gazelles across the white-lined green field, riding waves of friendship, self-confidence, and excitement.


At left is me in my sophomore year of high school, wearing my black and orange band uniform and holding my clarinet. At right is my son, KFP, who's currently a sophomore, wearing his red and black band uniform and holding his trumpet.


* Unlike many other schools, my son's high school has two distinct marching ensembles. The football marching band is mandatory for anyone who will perform in the concert band the rest of the year. There are also color guard, who take the course as an elective, I believe. The football marching band learns a traditional half-time show, marching in formation to music. They participate in a couple community activities, as well, including an annual parade and performing at the Memorial Day ceremonies.

The competition marching band is voluntary and treated as an extracurricular activity instead of a class. There are additional practices, including an additional week of summer band camp. They learn a separate marching show, which is more theatrical and uses props, set pieces, and special uniforms. Throughout the competition season, they compete against other bands of similar size, gaining points that dictate their start for later competitions. For each performance, they receive points for Music, Visual, and General Effect, with penalties subtracted.
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This is my entry for LJ Idol: Wheel of Fate, Week 11. This week's topic is "Tiger Team."

"What should I put on my section of the shield?" one of the Cub Scouts asked me.

"Something that you think represents you or represents the group," I suggested.

As the den leader for a group of first graders, I loved activities that encouraged creativity. Usually, I tried to help them work towards their own ideas rather than just giving them specific suggestions of what to create.

We were working on the Good Knights elective adventure. For those unfamiliar with Scouting America (formerly Boy Scouts USA), "adventures" are thematic units. Upon completing them, the Cub Scouts receive a metal belt loop they can slide onto their uniform belt. The den had voted on Good Knights as one of two electives required to complete the rank of Tiger, along with several other required adventures.

This was the first year of scouting for my son, KFP, and my first year as den leader. I'd shown up at the information meeting at the beginning of the year, because my brother had had such a great time in Scouts. Recently, he'd given me his old Cub Scout shirt and a bunch of Cub Scout hats and neckerchiefs that his son had outgrown. The main reason we attended the info meeting, though, was because the Cub Scout pack was being run by the mother of KFP's good buddy, whom we'll call Connor.

Not only did we walk away from that meeting with KFP registered as a Cub Scout, but I'd somehow volunteered to be the den leader for his den. Since then, it had been a learning experience for us both.

KFP, of course, had learned the many things that Scouting provides to kids: useful real-life skills, camping and outdoor knowledge, and tips on how to be a good neighbor and friend.

I, on the other hand, had learned that I'd better include a hands-on activity if I really wanted these youngsters to listen to any concept I was trying to teach. Although I had purchased the den leader workbook that was supposed to provide me with instructions on teaching each adventure, I soon learned that some of the activities were too involved or too off-topic to get through in a one-hour weekly meeting. And some activities mostly consisted of me, as the adult, talking to them about something like the meaning of the flag.

I spent hours online, researching suggestions from other den leaders and being active in a Facebook group for Cub Scout leaders. And still, I found that some of my well-planned activities just didn't resonate. Like the time we were supposed to draw on construction paper with chalk, and one of the boys spent most of the meeting creating a big, messy pile of chalk dust.

The rewarding moments, where the kids were engaged and seemed to be picking up new concepts, were at constant war with the frustrating moments, when kids were, for example, shooting rubber bands across the room instead of making the wind-up cars I'd planned. Even with the Scoutmaster regularly praising me for helping my den advance towards earning their rank, I still doubted myself and often got a little nervous before the meetings.

My son's journey was a bit different, as he didn't fret about advancement but mostly cared about the social aspect. While KFP already knew Connor, having met when they were babies at library storytime, he was still getting to know the other Tigers. This included one guy, whom we'll call Cyrus, who had joined the pack halfway through the school year.

The Good Knights adventure taught about the ancient concept of chivalry, and the Scouts were encouraged to compare the concepts of chivalry with the Scout Law: "A Scout is Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean, and Reverent." They also learned about heraldry, built a castle out of recycled materials (destined to become a favorite hang-out for our kitty Luke), and now, they were making a shield that represented the den.

I'd drawn an outline of a shield and then divided the shield into portions for them to fill in their own way. On the bottom edge and down the center, I'd affixed some beautiful die-cut appliques created by Cyrus's mom, who had her own die-cut machine. I provided the kids with markers, crayons, colored paper, scissors, and glue. They then were asked to fill in their section. But they were all stumped at how to begin.

To get them past their creative block, I asked them to think not just about how they defined themselves but also how they defined their little group. "There are no right answers," I said. "Do whatever you feel fits."

Much to my surprise, they started a conversation about their memories of the den. For them, it came back to one key moment: a "backyard nature hike" we'd taken the night that Cyrus first joined us.

That hike had been part of a different adventure. We were supposed to go outside and use our senses to take notice of the nature around us. Because we met in the evening, and it was fall, we'd stepped outside into the grassy area near the church, only to be met with inky darkness. At first, the kids joked that it was too dark to see any nature.

I told them to listen to the sounds around them. Once they stopped giggling, they could hear a few lonely crickets chirping in the November chill. We could hear the rustle of leaves underfoot.

Our eyes having adjusted, I told them to look around. We saw the silhouettes of trees, backlit by street lights. And then, in a voice suffused with wonder, Cyrus spoke up: "Look up, everyone! The moon!"

Through tree branches, we could see the crescent moon, hanging like a silver smile, beaming down at us. It seemed closer to Earth than usual: as large as a first grader's imagination.

"Wow" was on all of their lips, as they marveled at the moon that seemed to have been hung for their pleasure. When we talked about the experience after going back inside, the moon was the one thing they all remembered.

And now, all these months later, they agreed that that moment had been special. As they worked on their individual sections of the shield, they all chose to include their version of the moon: a symbol of the first moment they came together as a unit.

We'd had plenty of fun experiences as a group before Cyrus joined the den, but in their intuitive way, they'd gotten to the heart of the activity. The moment that defined them as a group was the first time they'd all shared something meaningful. I realized, then, that this journey we were all taking together meant something to me, as well.


The Pack 63 shield, on fading dark blue card stock, with a shield drawn in black marker. Each of four sections is filled with cut and glued paper and a few marker and crayon line drawings. They all include either a crescent moon or, in one case, a full moon.




A couple hours after posting this, I learned that Dave Biche, the assistant Scoutmaster of KFP's troop, died suddenly over the weekend. We had just spent a happy time with him the week before, building LEGO structures at a meeting. He became the primary instructor of Scout material for KFP once he moved up to regular Scouts, and his good humor and unflagging community spirit set a good example for those he led. He will greatly missed. I'd like to dedicate this post to him.
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This is my entry for Week 5 of LJ Idol: Wheel of Fortune. The topic is "Toi toi toi," which is an actor's alternative to saying, "Good luck."


My swim bag on my back, I'm about to step out the door to teach an aqua fitness class when I notice my husband at the computer, stepping into some sort of virtual fracas involving multiple players in armor, several monsters, and a towering dragon, jaws spewing fire.

"Have fun storming the castle!" I chirp as I step through the apartment door.

My husband responds, grimly, "Thanks." I can hear his fingers clacking furiously on the keys as the door closes behind me. It's part of our love language to quote "The Princess Bride."

While I haven't technically performed onstage since my last improv class about 17 years ago, I've spent enough time with actors and stage folk over the years to have adopted their prohibition towards saying "Good luck." In fact, even writing the phrase in this essay feels a little sketchy. Excuse me while I knock vigorously on our wooden coffee table to negate the bad juju.

Of course, being part of a nerdy family -- with parents who were proud to watch the original "Star Trek" when it first aired -- and having married a fellow geek, we often draw our felicitations from our shared culture.

"May the Force be with you!" I tell our teenage son. Slathered in sunscreen and bug spray and wearing his wide-brimmed "Australian outback" hat, he exits the car to join the other youth counselors, or "Green Shirts," for the first day of Cub Scout summer day camp. Given the large intersection between geeks and those involved in Scouting, I wouldn't be surprised if other Green Shirts are sent off similarly. I think it's safe to say that many of the Green Shirts -- and the campers alike -- have seen at least one film in the "Star Wars" series.

I'm not much of a "Hunger Games" fan, but I've seen the first movie, and my son has read the first book. So, I could envision an instance where I would wish him, “May the odds be ever in your favor.” That does, however, seem a bit dark, given the sorts of conditions and challenges faced by the young tributes in the series. I'm not sending him off to kill other teens in the hopes of being the sole survivor, after all.

If our son had turned out to be sports-minded, we might have found ourselves encouraging him to "Leave it all on the field" or "Knock it out of the park!" Or even -- gasp -- the mathematically questionable phrase, "Give it a hundred and ten percent!" But our son followed in his parents' geeky footsteps and, instead of joining the baseball team, became a proud member of the high school robotics team. At their matches, they shout in unison, "L-O-V-E, we love our drive team!" Love triumphs over luck any day.

A much more likely send-off for my son would be "Don't forget your towel!" The most appropriate time to use this benediction, of course, would have been while he was leaving for his weeklong overnight summer Scout camp. Of course, as fans of "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" know, this phrase implies much more than the ability to take a shower, because in that universe, there's nothing that ensures survival quite as effectively as knowing where your towel is.

If anyone in our immediate family had taken Latin instead of French, we might have gravitated towards the pseudo-Latin phrase “Fortunatus Maximus!” Apparently, that phrase is especially amusing to Latin students, because it doesn't exist in classic Latin. But of course, any English-speaking person will grok it as meaning "great fortune." It's one of those geek jokes that only make sense to an exclusive sub-group (and anyone who's had it explained to them).

Along the same lines would be chemistry jokes, preferred by chemists, science teachers, and pretty much all dads everywhere. Such a person might see me off to teach an after-school science club by wishing me, "May you always find the SOLUTION to your problems." I could see my husband, a former chemist, saying this and then fixing me with a broad smile as he awaited my reaction. (See what I did there?)

But the most often-used geeky phrase conveying good wishes originated with "Star Trek." The Vulcan phrase "Live long and prosper" has become the go-to phrase for a multitude of uses and has been so prevalent in popular culture that the Vulcan salute can be immediately understood to convey that wish. I'd certainly rather hear "Live long and prosper" than have someone tell me to "break a leg" or "knock 'em dead."

And while we're still several years away from seeing our son off to college, I can imagine myself leaving our son in front of his dorm room and bidding him adieu with a Vulcan salute, which, as the child of geeks, he would know conveyed every good wish that I could muster.



KFP in his "Australian outback" hat and wearing a "Star Wars" t-shirt. This photo is two years old, so the shirt no longer fits and he's now taller than me! He's still rocking the hat, however.
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This is my entry for LJ Idol: Wheel of Fate. This week's topic is "Figure of Speech."

My aching legs demanding a rest, I plopped down onto a low, smooth wall. My son and his cousins were about to ride the Zenith, a hubless Ferris wheel with a steampunk look inside the Mega Parc, an amusement park in the Galeries de la Capitale, a very large mall in Quebec City, Canada.

Just as my butt hit the seat, my sister exclaimed, "You're not supposed to sit there!"

"You're not?" I asked, with audible distress.

She pointed to a sticker affixed to the bench that said something in French and included a stick figure apparently falling off a bench, with a red line through it. My exhausted mind agreed with her that it was an odd way of telling people not to sit there. I don't know: maybe the surface was occasionally slippery, in colder times of year? Maybe if you sat there, you were in the drop zone of the Zenith and could get a face-full of whatever careened off the Ferris wheel?

No Reaching Over Sign


Fig. 1: A stick figure sits on a badly-drawn rectangular bench, leaning to the right with a hand reaching down. A red circle with a slash through it overlays the awkward scene.


With a sigh, I heaved myself back into a roughly vertical position and followed her to the gate where our kids would exit once the ride ended, so that we could crane our necks and experience the ride vicariously.

At the close of the ride, we met up with my husband, The Gryphon, who was comfortably seated on one of the prohibited smooth ledges.

"You're not allowed to sit on those," I informed him.

"No," he said. "You are not allowed to stick your hand over the ledge when the Zamboni is in use."

I finally tried to grok the French in the sign and realized that he was probably right. It mentioned something about "mains" (hands) and "pieds" (feet), as well as "Zamboni." The enticing ledge, it turns out, was just above an oval ice-skating track, the Patinarium, that wound around the amusement park area.

As if to prove the point, the Zamboni, painted a dull copper and encrusted with decorative gears in keeping with the steampunk theme, slid by on the ice, the operator giving us a wry smile.

Throughout our experiences in Quebec City, deep in the French-speaking part of Canada, we found that most signs communicated messages in more than one way. Either they'd be in both French and English, or they'd be in French with a visual symbol. Some of those, however, were so unique they were hard for us Americans to parse.

This was only the third day of our family vacation in Quebec City, but the previous day had involved hours of walking as we visited the Lower Town (Basse-Ville) shops and then took the Funicular to take a near-vertical ride up to Upper Town (Haute-Ville) to view Le Chateau Frontenac, an historic hotel built in 1893 that looks like an old-world castle.

On our ride up, we noted a sign so important it used three ways of communicating: English ("No leaning"), French ("Pas de penchement") and an image of a stick figure seemingly being way too relaxed against a vertical surface, with a line through it. The sign was stuck on the front and back glass doors of the steel-and-glass box we were riding to the neighborhood on the Cap Diamant cliff above us.

No Leaning Sign


Fig. 2: A stick figure leans against a vertical line representing a wall. The stick figure has one knee bent, one leg straight, and a bent elbow to look awfully relaxed, considering how deep the fall would be on the other side of the glass. There's a circle and red line through the image.


That one was easy. Also easy, the image of an enterprising stick figure, its chunky arms and legs askew on a railing, indicating someone (most likely a child) climbing. Of course, the requisite red circle and slash indicated this was an action not to emulate.

This particular sticker appeared on the top deck of the Quebec City-Levis Ferry, next to a similar barred railing. My sister pointed this one out to me as our families, along with our dad and our brother's daughter, sat on benches near the railing as we waited for the ferry to take off. We agreed it's probably an ongoing problem there, as children are basically monkeys.

No Climbing Sign


Fig. 3: A stick figure who looks small like a child has the right arm and leg uplifted on a set of bars, with the left leg resting on the lowest bar and the left hand grabbing the left post. There's a red circle and line through this ill-advised action.


But perhaps the most confusing sign greeted us shortly after arriving in Canada, in the dark driving through rain. The Gryphon was already exhausted from our day-long drive from the Philadelphia area when a thunderstorm hit in the middle of our dinner stop at a small restaurant near Lake George in New York.

By the time we reached the border, the rain was petering out, so that we passed through customs in a lull. The misty rain that dribbled down afterwards was only enough to produce rainbows in the twilight sky.

Immediately, the difference in signs became clear. Most of them were in French, with images to emphasize the message. A few were only images, such as one that made my husband exclaim, "What does that mean? Are planes going to be landing on the highway?"

Our son, KFP, a whiz at looking up information on his phone, soon had the answer. "No, Dad. It means there may be low-flying aircraft in this area."

My husband breathed a sigh of relief before adding, "Wait. What?"

Fortunately, we didn't get buzzed by any planes during our journey.

Low Flying Jets Sign

Fig. 4: A silhouetted plane flies over a diagonal strip of two-lane highway, on a yellow diamond background.


As we wound through the city this past week, we encountered locals and fellow tourists who spoke a variety of languages. Most of the time, we ended up conversing in English, although sometimes a mix of English and French. Nearly all of the adults in our group had taken French in high school or college, but it had been decades since then, and lack of use had made us rusty. My son had taken two years of French but often faltered with very simple phrases. Fortunately, the Canadians were kind to us and changed languages when they saw us struggling.

Once, I spoke with our hotel maid, who spoke only French and Spanish. My sister's husband was the only person in our group who knew Spanish. Unfortunately, he wasn't present, so she and I bumbled along: her in French, me in English and French, both of us making hand gestures to indicate what we were trying to communicate.

By and large, the people we encountered were "super" (just like the word "super," but said with a French accent). They saw our large group of combined families -- mine, my sister's, my brother's, and our dad -- which ranged in age from 10 to 82, and they just wanted to help us, you know?

We were "friends" to both our concierge and the tour guide at our last trip, to La Citadel de Quebec, a fortress on a hill that houses the Royal 22nd Regiment, the only French-speaking regiment in Canada today.

"Come this way, friends," the tour guide, Beatrice, would say, with her wide smile. And we'd follow her anywhere, even into a jail cell.

Certainly, French Canadians -- or the Quebecois, as they call themselves -- understand better than most the importance of communication. The fact that languages are interchangeable, as long as eventually, you get your point across.

I contemplated all these things as we left Canada, passing again the yellow diamond plane signs and imagining a pilot flying low overhead. "Goodbye, friend," he'd call to us. "A bientot!" ("See you soon!")




A rainbow greeted us in Canada, through brightly blue-gray skies above a yellow and green field with far distant white buildings.




The view from the Funicular: a strip of mostly old-looking buildings in the lower left, in tans and grays with splashes of orange, yellow, and red. In the middle ground stretches the wide, brackish brown St. Lawrence River, atop of which floats the white and blue ferry. On the far distant banks is a misty glimpse of an expanse of green and small buildings, which is the city of Levis (pronounced "Leh-VEE").




A cannon and a view of the outer wall of the Citadelle de Quebec, a fortress in Quebec City. At the right of the image, the cannon is heavy, black, and pointed skyward. A brick pathway and a snaky asphalt road lead diagonally from the bottom left corner to the middle distance. Bright green grass surrounds the brick path and alongside the road. In the far distance is the stone wall, seemingly small in this photo but actually at least 30 feet high.




The Chateau de Fronterac, seen from the Citadelle. Rising out of a sea of smaller stone and brick buildings which are interspersed with trees, the Chateau dominates the skyline. Its peaked roofs with green tiles evoke a European castle. The most impressive feature is the red brick tower, with its black-tiled roof, that rises near the front of the building, rectangular with a peaked roof and multiple stone spires.




My son, my husband, and me on the deck of the ferry between Quebec City and Levis. My sister took this selfie, but I've cropped her out, for privacy reasons. Behind us is the white railing that sported the sign, along with other blue benches, which would soon be occupied, and more white painted railings above the captain's cabin. Barely visible, hanging over the cabin, is the Quebec flag, with its fields of blue, cross of white and white fleur de lis.



I'd like to thank The Gryphon for suggesting this way of approaching the prompt, as we were driving home from our journey and my brain and body were exhausted.

As you might have guessed, I had to draw the "no reaching" sign myself, since I couldn't find anything similar. The other signs I found online, but they are almost identical to what we saw. If I'd known I would have been writing this entry, I would have photographed all the fun signs I saw!
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This is my entry for the Sudden Death round of Week 7.

"He doesn't need us anymore," the Jock said, hunching his overbuilt shoulders and pulling his red hoodie over his face.

The Rebel flicked the Jock a bemused look. "Oh, you finally noticed," he said. He whirled the steel-and-hard-plastic cafeteria chair around, then straddled it. "What was your first clue?"

Sinking further into his chair, the Jock answered. "He said that he only sees guys like us in movies. We don't exist in his school." He looked like an overstuffed muscle man who was slowly deflating.

A breathy voice rose from the next table. "Looks like you both finally realized the world doesn't revolve around you," the Goth intoned. She interrupted herself from making an art sculpture of her lunch long enough to lick her fingers ironically.

The Geek wheeled around in his chair and stared openly at the Goth with a look halfway between fascination and repulsion. His mouth gapped open as he failed to come up with anything cogent to say.

Carefully picking up her sushi with hand-engraved chopsticks, the Prom Queen shook her perky red locks and took a delicate bite. Savoring her meal, she realized the Rebel was glaring at her. "Can I please just eat?" she asked.

Slamming his half-gloved right fist into his left palm, the Rebel tried for drama. "Of course you can, sugar. No one's coming for you, yet. You'll always exist," he said with a sneer.

The Prom Queen shrugged and wiped an errant grain of rice off her pink off-the-shoulder crop-top. "Whatever," she said, as if ending the conversation.

Sinking even lower, the Jock croaked. "They don't even say that anymore!"

"Of course they don't," the Geek put in. "They're not even from the same gener--"

The Rebel stood up and pushed the cafeteria chair down with a crash. "Don't even," he warned the Geek. "We're timeless."

Thoughtfully, the Geek put a hand to his unshaven, peach-fuzz chin. "You do have a point. There have been guys like you since at least the time of this kid's grandparents. The look has changed a bit, but usually, there's some leather in there somewhere."

"Yeah, and nerds have existed since the time of Aristotle," the Rebel answered. "What's your point?"

The Jock was nearly on the floor now, deeply into his feelings. "We don't EXIIIIIIST!!!" he wailed.

With a snorting laugh, the Goth crushed up her corn chips and blew them across the table. "From dust to dust," she exclaimed with glee, then waved her arms snakelike over her head in her rendition of a death dance.

"Says you," the Prom Queen said. "I definitely exist." She fixed her gaze on the Geek as if to prove her point.

The Geek was warming up. He sat up straighter in his chair. "Yes, you do. We all do," he assured her. "But we're just not as relevant anymore."

The human puddle formerly known as the Jock moaned.

Standing up and leaning on the table, the Geek looked down at Puddle Jock and asked him, "What did he say, exactly?"

Sniffing loudly, the Jock wobbled, "His mom asked him about his friend who plays a lot of sports, if he's considered a Jock." The Geek nodded supportively. "And -- he said he doesn't know anyone who uses that term at his school."

A clatter as the Rebel kicked another cafeteria chair halfway across the room. The Geek held up a calming hand. "Let's hear him out," he advised.

The Jock continued: "And -- and when she asked him what he meant by that, he said that there were guys who played sports, but nobody treated them as if they were different. They were just -- guys."

Leaning down, the Geek put a hand on the Jock's heaving shoulders. "That's OK, big guy. I'm sure he didn't mean anything negative by that."

Finishing off her sushi, the Prom Queen said delicately, "I'm sure he wasn't being mean or anything. He's a pretty cool guy."

"You think so?" the Geek said, almost hopefully. "Because if he was in our school, he might be considered -- a geek."

"What, just because he's smart?" the Goth spat. She peered out from under her dyed-black bangs. "Jealousy is so yesterday." She finished fingerpainting with her pudding and hung it on the wall behind her.

The Geek rocked back on his feet. "You do have a point there. But what I was about to say was that nobody picks on him because of it."

Wiping off her chopsticks before putting them back into their traveling case, the Prom Queen said, "Good. Maybe his generation is making some progress, then. I always thought it was ridiculous to make fun of people just for getting good grades."

Regaining his bones, the Jock sat up suddenly. "Hey! I never made fun of geeks! I'm a nice guy."

The Geek patted him on the shoulder. "Sure you are," he said.

Gesturing expansively, the Goth said, "But sometimes names themselves are violence."

With a slam of his fist on the table, the Rebel opened his mouth to speak... then thought better of it. "She's right," he said, as if surprised by his own words.

The Goth stood on top of the table, doing an interpretive dance. It went on, and on, and on. Mesmerized, the Geek watched her. The Rebel just shrugged.

Dropping her empty sushi container in the trash, the Prom Queen said, "Catch you all later. I've got to go get my yearbook picture taken."

The Jock wiped his eyes on his sleeve and pulled himself together before following. He paused in the doorway and turned back to face the other three. "Sorry, guys." Then, realizing his words were unclear, he repeated. "No, I'm really sorry. For, like, everything."

His hands falling to his sides, the Rebel said, sotto voce, to the Geek: "I don't know what you just did, but thank you, man."

Puffing up his undersized chest, the Geek responded, "Don't thank me. Thank Generation Z."

~~~

This piece was inspired by a conversation I had with my son, who assured me that no one uses the term "jock" anymore. Upon further discussion, it seems that most of the stereotypical cliques familiar to us Gen X parents no longer exist. In fact, he and his classmates seem entirely capable of viewing each other's strengths and weaknesses in totality, without sticking that person into a category.

I don't know if it's just his school district or if it's something unique to Gen Z, but my son assured me that the only way he and his friends even know those labels is from watching movies and paying attention to pop culture.

I choose to find that hopeful.





I used a Photoshop filter to create this brightly-colored, cartoonish version of one of the schools in my son's school district.
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This is my entry for Week 3 of LJ Idol. The topic this week is "Without You."

Graffiti Pier (Motherhood in a Nutshell)

Today, in a gray
hat suitable for the Outback,
you head for Graffiti Pier
with art camp. To contribute your
beautiful chaos. In photos, flashing
consummate V's betwixt
layered color. Carnivorous
plant, axolotl, deep words,
sunglasses and trench coat,
your group's additions. Each
taking over a space, spraying
onto primed cement. The pier

awash with voices. All those seasons of
painters -- like you now -- at once
alone on this concrete island. Together,
a cacophony. A chorus. And then
you, with blued hands, inked sleeve, spinning
away into your own orbit.

~~~

Thanks for Dr. Finn's "Plop and a Plunk" art camp for the inspiration.

Here's an image of KFP at Graffiti Pier with his creation, the logo for Wrenchcoat Labs, a fictional organization he invented: Wrenchcoat Labs

Here's more about Graffiti Pier
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This is my entry for LJ Idol. The topic this week is "craic," an Irish term which means "an enjoyable social activity, a good time; great company and lively conversation."

KFP-birthday-age-12
KFP on a bumper car, looking aglow with joy



Turning 12, on Bumper Cars

Spinning blissfully, the five boys
each turn inward. As if with one mind,
they stare at one another in silent
communion. Their elongated legs
crooked to reach the pedals, they gaze
at one another. Paused,
for just this moment --

then someone releases a primal
yawp. They whirl furiously onward,
bumping collegially, almost
apologetically, as they
expand ever outward.






In honor of KFP, who turned 12 this week, having a rip-roaring good time with friends at an indoor fun center.
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This is an entry for LJ Idol Minor Plus. This week's topic is "Thanks for Giving," and you can read the other entries here: https://therealljidol.dreamwidth.org/1108602.html. I've had a rather busy week, so instead of writing something new, I'm going to share a previously unpublished piece from 2013.

2013 Thanksgiving Alyce & KFP
Me and KFP at Thanksgiving dinner in 2013.
(I'm wearing an orange V-neck sweater with white blouse
and brown faux leather jacket. He's a plump-faced little dude
in an orange polo with a blue and white checked button-down long-sleeved shirt
as an extra layer. I've got my arm comfortingly around him and am inclining
my head down towards his little dark-blonde head.)



My attitude towards possessions has changed drastically since becoming a mom. In the three years since giving birth to my son, I've lost an iPod, two voice recorders, and my wallet. I've even had dreams about misplacing my car, but so far that, mercifully, hasn't happened. I suspect that's largely because my son tends to be inside. After all, my increasingly feeble mind still manages to remember him, if nothing else.

Ask any mom: if faced with the choice of dropping her squirming baby and dropping her phone, she'll let the phone hit pavement. (At this point, I'd like to nudge all parents-to-be to invest in an extremely durable phone case; you'll need it.)

While I was never terribly materialistic -- during my extended "hippie" phase, I didn't even own a television -- these days, absolutely nothing matters as much as my little boy. I rarely buy books or CDs anymore, unless they feature dinosaurs and trains. I'm embarrassingly overdue to go bra shopping, and my shorts are falling off, now that I'm finally losing my baby weight. Still, about 99% of my clothing purchases over the past several years have been for my son.

Of course, he's changed in size more rapidly than I have; until this past January, I was stuck in my postpartum squishy state. Admittedly, it's also more fun buying clothes featuring cool cartoon characters than trying to figure out what works on my new, "improved" body.

As a work-at-home mom, my contribution to the family finances has decreased rather than grown. Now that we have three people to feed, clothe and keep happy, I'm fine giving my son the majority of new (or slightly used) things. I feel like I owe it to him, since he's new here.

Of course, if advertisers had their way, I'd be spending far more. The minute you get pregnant in the U.S., you start receiving messages -- both subtle and overt -- about all the things you must acquire in order to make sure your baby is happy and safe. Sign up for one parenting or pre-natal site, and your inbox is flooded with advertisements for the latest baby gear: from necessary items like onesies and car seats to frivolous ones like video baby monitors and motion-sensitive crib mobiles. When you sign up for a baby registry, you guarantee not only that your friends and family will know exactly what you'd like to receive but also that the store knows exactly which items you'd most like to receive coupons and promotions about, and which related items you might be talked into purchasing, alongside them.

Not that there's anything wrong with that: I mean, unless you're planning on hand-knitting all your child's clothing, toys and bedding, you're probably going to want to buy a few new items. Don't let me talk you out of that. In fact, just the opposite: indulge on a few really cute items you can't resist; but don't forget that your little bundle of love will only be able to wear that adorable outfit for a couple months. Then follow my brother's sage advice: take a picture of your kid wearing your favorite outfits, because they'll outgrow them faster than a sports car zips through a one-light town.

This is why so many kids' wardrobes consist primarily of classic staple items bought from the local used clothing store -- T-shirts, sweaters, exercise pants for boys, leggings and cotton skirts for girls -- and a handful of current clothes, provided by giddy grandparents and other family members.

The same goes for books. If your family is composed of book lovers, as mine is, you can look forward to receiving a library full of beautiful children's books. A helpful note: any books you want to keep in good condition should be placed on an upper shelf, because the rest of them will soon be gummed, chewed, torn and ripped. Experienced parents know to keep a roll of clear packaging tape handy in order to "fix" beloved books. While I'll admit that, as a book lover, it used to bother me to see my son wreak such havoc on his books, I now have an easy way to gauge how much he loves a certain story: by how much I've had to tape it back together.

Before I became a parent, I remember visiting friend's houses both before and after the advent of children. While none of my friends ever lived in houses worthy of "Architectural Digest," I noticed a similar trend with all those who had kids. The rustic farmhouse of one family went from quaint to quixotic, while the modern ranch home of another couple went from understated to cluttered. Rugs darkened, walls acquired smudges, and toys took over. In one case, a father of three rummaged through a pile of children's things to dig out his guitar case. And then, this longtime musician -- who's been in more bands than I've worn clothing sizes -- placed the acoustic guitar flat on the floor for my toddler son to investigate. I wonder if he'd ever have considered being so laissez-faire about his instrument when we met in grad school?

And right there is the marvelous revelation brought by parenthood: material things don't matter. They're fun, yes, and some of them are even necessary. But books are made to be loved, clothes are made to be outgrown (or in my case, hopefully, shrunk out of), and toys and games are made to be used. Children seem to sense, instinctively, what so many of us have forgotten: memories come from living, not from hanging back. And when he moves away some day, ready for his own life, I won't think about how much we spent on his clothes and other items. I won't mourn a broken toy truck or lament a torn book. No, I'll reflect on all the memories we formed together. Enthusiastically, fearlessly, with joy in our hearts.
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This is my entry for LJ Idol, with the topic "Making Fire." The voting post is here: https://therealljidol.dreamwidth.org/1071987.html

Crouching low, piling up sticks, my son and his fellow Cub Scouts kept up a steady patter. Nine- and ten-year-olds, it would seem, are incapable of taking any action without commentating on it. Loudly announcing their actions to each other, their play-by-play continued for their umpteenth attempt:

"I'm putting lots of dry pine needles in the center."

"I'll make a teepee from the bigger sticks."

"Make sure to leave lots of air underneath or it won't burn."

"OK, I think we're ready to try again. Get the instructor."

The boys stood to wait for the test.

Stepping over to join them, the instructor, a college student in a tan uniform, eyed the build. "Where do you want the match?" she asked. In order to limit the chance of injury, she was the only one allowed to handle the matches.

The boys gestured to the pine needles, and she dutifully lit a match and held it close to the would-be tinder. The needles caught fire and then curled up, turning immediately to smoky ash. Though placed carefully around the needles, the twigs designed to be kindling didn't light. Disappointed, the boys sunk back down onto their haunches, decimated their build, and started over.

As I took photos from the sidelines, I marveled at their problem-solving attempts. Only momentarily disappointed, they sprang back into action, throwing out ideas and carefully arranging another semblance of a campfire structure. Their eyes flashed confidence, and even though I could see the obvious flaws -- too much crowding the center of the teepee, kindling sticks too thick to ignite quickly -- I held my breath as another match neared the structure, hoping.

After another match fizzled out, they groaned. "Come on!" one of them exclaimed. But that moment, too, passed quickly and they set to work again.

A few years ago, I would have squatted down next to them and tried to help my son. I would have made suggestions, perhaps pointed out some sticks and some arrangements to try. These days, he's at the Webelos level, or the highest level of Cub Scouts before moving up to Scouts BSA. He needs to learn to do it himself, and so do his friends. So I kept my mouth shut and left the instructing to the instructor.

Undeterred, they continued their perpetual cycle of attempt, failure, try again. Squatting, building, standing, sinking again. Building grand visions of bonfires, while their clumsy hands couldn't even cobble together a low flame.

As I watched this dance, as if in fast motion, I saw them stumbling through that pre-adolescent dance of growth and disappointment. One moment, they're perceptive, thoughtful, and confident, striding forward with chests held high. The next moment, they crumble into doubt, needing a hug, or wiping away frustrated tears.

But however childish they may feel inside, individually, however fragile they may admit to being at home with no one but their parents to see, together they become blustery in their determination. They may not always believe in themselves, but they believe in the group.

That sort of flexibility becomes invaluable in uncertain days, the sort of days that I couldn't even have imagined a year ago as I watched this scene play out. Since then, I've watched some of the same boys, gathering in masks, giving each other "air high-fives" and combining forces to clean up a local creek. I've seen them sauntering along the rip-rap, finding flat rocks to skip along the waves, in between stopping to scoop up bottles and plastic bags. All the while staying six feet apart.

How do you do it? I want to ask them. How have you become so much greater, so much bolder and braver than we had any right to hope?

This past weekend, my family watched "The Fellowship of the Ring," the first time my son had seen it, although he was familiar with the story, having read the book with his dad. I had other things I should have been doing, but I sat down and watched this movie for possibly the fifth time. Yet, I've never seen it the same way.

This time, I saw myself in Gandalf and saw my son and his friends as the cheerful, indefatigable hobbits. Naive about the world, perhaps, but so very much more brave and capable than anyone could have predicted. For all their childish glee, their pranks and jokes, they rose above it all and took on a challenge that even bigger, skilled heroes could not.

Unexpectedly, I caught my eyes tearing up at moments that haven't impacted me that way for years. Every time the hobbits stood up, had each other's backs, forged on in spite of insurmountable obstacles, I couldn't help squeezing the wavy-haired boy at my side. I made such an audible whimper during the following famous exchange that my son looked at me in astonishment.

Frodo: "I wish the Ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened."

Gandalf: "So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”
 
Nobody asked for this reality, but here we are. Those same boys who couldn't start a fire, but kept on trying, today keep rolling with the endless series of gut punches that is 2020.

An eon ago, in the late summer of 2019, my son's group finally succeeded in evincing a small but smoldering fire to lick at the larger sticks and grow into a promising little blaze. Then, being hobbits, they jumped around so exuberantly, they accidentally kicked the sticks over.
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This is my entry for Week 5 of LJ Idol. The topic this week is "Kayfabe," a professional wrestling term you can read about at this Wikipedia page.

As you glide through a glinting pool, nearly
invisible in aqua, you smile. Joy
soaks through me in my sweaty
viewing box. For that instant, I need not pretend

that I'm well-rested
that I'm calm
that I have it all together.

For that moment, I see only
your lopsided grin, warm
umber eyes behind your goggles.

Not my endless self-doubt loop
anxious "what ifs"
grim news moments.

So much time I've spent
pretending, like in third grade, aping
my friend's love for golden-haired Danny,
never my type. If I pretended enough,
I thought, maybe it would take. No
such luck. But I just loved
to be around her
when she wore that love halo; wanted
to share it with her. After she
moved away, I fell hard
for Danny's opposite:
a long-nosed, dark-haired boy
with sarcastic wit. Pretending

we mostly do
for others. Grin
at bad jokes, dole out
compliments while our jealous
hearts roil. At times, I must
for your sake, project
confidence, security. If I
don't have answers, I possess
the power to find them.

But today, when I
tripped over folding chairs
left in the living room, fell flat
on harsh carpet while helping
you to the school bus, for once
I stopped pretending. I wept.
You regarded me with surprise,
while I regained control. Sat
beside me, patting my arm.

Be here, your touch said.
And for that moment, being here was enough.




It didn't fit in the poem, but I also wanted to add that, as if he had read my thoughts, KFP told me while he was comforting me that I'm a good Mommy just the way I am.

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